If one wants another only for some self-satisfaction, usually in the form of sensual pleasure, that wrong desire takes the form of lust rather than love.
I wonder if most people ever ask themselves why love is connected with reproduction. And if they do ask themselves about this, I wonder what answer they give.
I find the selectivity of erotic love – the choice of this man or this woman – much more intelligible if liking the person is the origin of sexual interest, rather than the other way.
Friendship is a very taxing and arduous form of leisure activity.
Freud’s view is that all love is sexual in its origin or its basis. Even those loves which do not appear to be sexual or erotic have a sexual root or core. They are all sublimations of the sexual instinct.
Erotic or sexual love can truly be love if it is not selfishly sexual or lustful.